ACTIVITIES FOR MEN'S GROUPS
How to give life to your men's ministry
Ideas for Success
- 1. Pray for guidance, and that the Lord will help
you select a few good men to plan and lead.
- 2. Set a date and invite these few good men to
join you for a couple hours of prayerful planning.
- 3. Your purpose in this meeting is twofold:
- First, to develop a statement of purpose for having your gathering
of men. Keep in mind that this statement should satisfy the question, "Why
a men's ministry?" Make it a short, simple, and spiritual statement
that focuses on growth and God's purpose for men.
- Second, to affirm and build the core group that will be key to the
success of the ministry.
- 4. Use the art of brainstorming to develop some
good ideas for the life of your group. Here's how to make this process
work for you.
- a. Brainstorming is offering all kinds of suggestions for the
men's group. (Be sure you have someone to write the ideas down on a chalkboard
or white marker board--and it should be someone who can write fast!). No
one is to react to any idea negatively. In other words, if someone says
, "Wouldn't it be a good idea to have a skydiver drop in with a special
telegram from the governor?," you don't laugh or say, "that's
silly!" Rather, you just keep the ideas flowing.
- The faster the better, and what happens is fascinating: The imaginative
mind seems to come unlocked and a stream of ideas flows out. Finally, when
you have exhausted the ideas, you then review and rank them. Select your
favorites and then develop the logistics of how the idea can work best
for your situation. Pencil in events on specific dates as a "tentative"
or "first draft" concept.
- As you finesse your ideas you will have a whole list of possibilities
and the well will never run dry for inspiring things to do.
- b. If you come to a sticky point or have difficulty, simply
pause and have prayer. Pray specifically that the Lord will give you ideas
which will bless your men and lead them to a realization of their need
to grow as Men of God.
- 5. Follow whatever process your church uses to
carry out its programs. In most cases, this means plans need to be submitted
to the church board for approval. The pastor can give guidance regarding
what course to take and what he is comfortable with. In seeking the approval
of the board (or whatever authority), be sure to explain the purpose of
the men's ministry. The impressions people form will largely be positive
if you assure and reassure that the purpose is to help men grow in their
roles as husbands, fathers, and pillars of the church.
- 6. Request time during the Sabbath service to
make a special presentation to the congregation. Describe the mission and
purpose of the group and then hand out your calendar of events. Make sure
that each event is well planned.
- 7. Keep your group focused on the spiritual goal
of making "Men of God." Prayer, and the conscious presence of
the Lord, must be an integral part of each event. Even the recreational
and social events should have a rich ingredient of prayer and Christ-centered
conversation. Avoid the low road of gossipy dialogs, or trivial, close-to-edge
jokes. Always lead on the high road.
- Make Christ the unseen guest at every event and verbalize your pleasure
in His presence. He will make His presence real in our conversations, our
mirth, and all our fellowship.
- Set a goal that after every event, each man will leave with a lighter
heart, lifted spirit, and fully encouraged to live for Christ in his home
and at his work.
- When a church has a group of men who consistently build each other
up in their faith, a bonding of friendship and Spiritual support takes
place. Each event, each gathering will become a golden chapter in our memories.
- 8. It is very, very important that men's ministries
not become another event that takes men away from their families. In other
words, for wives and families to be supportive of this ministry, they must
see concrete evidence that the gathering achieved its goal. Their man must
return home refreshed and recharged to walk as Christ in the presence of
his family. The more the family experiences this, the more they are going
to appreciate the time he spends with the men. This is not just "men
being boys and having fun," rather it's "men who have come together
to build better men for the sake of better relationships at home."
- 9. Develop a list of special songs to sing together.
Have a musical person lead out with a guitar, piano, or even without accompaniment.
Use songs that especially speak to men about consecration, the home, sacrifice,
and building strength in the Lord. Create out your own booklet of songs
on a word processor and print them in a neat format for your group.
- 10. Use one of your meetings to create a list
of Bible promises that encourage men to trust in God's love. Encourage
the men to fortify their hearts and their commitments by memorizing these
promises and recalling them when needed during the day. Provide a "promise
report" time during each meeting. This is a time for sharing how the
words of Scripture "popped into my mind just when I needed it."
- 11. Ask the church to purchase a few books for
men each month. These might be books that pertain to relationships in a
Christian home, family worship, strengthening a marriage, parenting, or
any other subject that helps men live the new life in Christ. Cataloge
the books and loan them to the men at your meetings. Set aside a time for
book reports at each meeting. Regularly hold up a book during Sabbath services
so that your men will be aware of the good books that are available.
- 12. Frequently speak about the holy calling of
men as priests of the home. Speak in positive ways of the man preparing
himself daily with prayer and Bible study. One minister occasionally calls
a man up on the platform during the worship service (having arranged with
him beforehand, of course) and in an interesting way interviews him on
his method of family worship, and elicits such things as the great blessing
worship is to the family. Sometimes a wife can add a lot by simply adding
how encouraging and strengthening it has been to the marriage and family
since "Jim" has been leading out with worship. Some pastors do
this often in conjunction with the children's story. Following the children's
story, sometimes a set of parents is called up to the microphone and each
offers a short prayer for every home, the school, and each child. The simple,
earnest prayer of a mom and a dad can settle a cloud of God's glory on
- Sometimes grandparents may be invited to come right after the story
and read a blessing for the children and each home represented in the congregation.
When men come forward and give a testimony of their leadership activities
at home it spreads throughout the congregation. The more we present these
witnesses and their testimonies, the more compelling it becomes for each
man to become the spiritual leader in his own at home. Testimonies are
a powerful force to building Godly homes.
- 13. Plan a weekend campout just for fathers and
kids. Have a campfire with lots of great, inspiring stories. Include a
time when each father takes his own child or children for a "Memory
Hike." At some point in the hike the father sits down with his children
and very thoughtfully shares how much God really loves them and how much
the loves them too. This is a good time for Dad to talk about the meaning
of each child's name and share some of the feelings he had when he looked
at them for the first time. If Dad takes this opportunity to share his
personal testimony and describe how God is leading in his life, and then
invite each child to rededicate their heart to God, the "Memory Hike"
could well become a spiritual pillar in the life of each child.
- You will want to use a few minutes in several of your men's meetings
to plan for this hike. Have the men practice their testimony and their
words of encouragement on each other. Also, let Mom know the approximate
time this will take place so they can be on their knees in prayer at that
- 14. Hold a special communion service for your
men. This can take place on a Friday night or early Sabbath morning, or
even on a Sunday morning following a light breakfast.
- Discuss the significance of submission, discipleship, and the value
of strong brotherly love. Have large cups of grape juice, and giant thick
biscuits of unleavened bread that will need to be broken and shared.
- Set up an old rugged cross, and sing some carefully selected music.
Create a atmosphere of quiet, non-rushed, contemplative sequence of events.
Have the men read Psalms together, and maybe choose some Psalms to be read
by one group and then another antiphonally. Sing "The Lord's Prayer,"
or "A Mighty Fortress Is Our God" to close the meeting. There
may be those who want to share their feelings about their wife or family
and express their desire to adorn them with their love. When they wash
each other's feet ask them to especially pray for each other's marriage
and family. Have them take the time to share with each other specific burdens
relating to the family.
- 15. Some time ago I read about this gift idea,
and I thought it might be creatively incorporated into one of our men's
events. Purchase a large enough supply (52 for each man) of large size
gelatin empty capsules. You can inform the men that they should bring a
certain amount of money to cover the cost of this activity. Have a selection
of at least 52 one-liners printed on a sheet of paper such as:
- "One night's freedom from dishwashing"
- "One pizza for the evening of your choice"
- "One good, long walk together"
- "One new outfit of your choice"
- "One new nightgown of my choice"
- You can come up with a large variety of "gifts"in a reasonably
short time. Some will involve money, many won't. But each involves togetherness.
Provide a sheet with the 52+ one-liners on it and a pair of scissors for
each man. Have each man choose 52 and roll 'em up and insert 'em into the
capsules. Put the pills into in a neat little bottle with a label that
reads, "RX from Dr......" (your name) for (your wife's name).
"To prevent the dulling of rnarriage, take one capsule every week
for the next year." Half the fun is watching the wife fight off the
urge to open all the capsules at once.
- Some men may choose to write up some of their own one-liners. After
all, he knows his wife best and he might tailor his treats to the delights
that are unique to her.
- Encourage each couple to choose a certain time each week when they
can be together as she opens one capsule.
- 16. Divide the men into teams of three and invite
each man to select a Scriptural passage that best describes the other two
men in his group. As the men share the verses with each other - and explain
why they selected them - the men in yur ministry will see each other, and
themselves, much better. They will also quickly see how much God loves
- These are just a few ideas for getting a meaningful Men's Ministries
going in your church. But please do not delay! Get your men started on
the upper road to becoming what God wants for them. We like the way Stu
Weber put it:
- "Men, you and I need to own for ourselves that same clarity
of vision that so marked the life of Christ. We need to give ourselves
up for our brides and the Bride as He did. So that the family might live
well...... There's a world out there that needs some Tender Warriors. It's
every man's purpose... every woman's dream... and every child's hope. It's
the definition of a man. I want to head up that road. My prayers are with
the men of this conference as we plan in our respective churches. I believe
God has some wonderful things in store for us and our families that will
be the result."